The start of the pomegranate days

This pomegranate was a Solstice gift from Jag, to celebrate our decision to become parents... Let's hope it increased my fertility like it's meant to!

I was off work today, and so finally took the plunge: I called the local fertility centre.  “My partner and I are interested in becoming clients of your clinic, to conceive using donor sperm,” I said.  “What are our next steps?”

I gotta tell you, readers, my heart was beating super fast. All the research in the world did nothing to prepare me for how it felt to actually move forward on this queer baby making project.

So it turns out that I need a referral.  Not having my own doctor , I’ll have to go to a walk-in clinic and ask for it.  For some reason, I find this funny.  I mean, it’s not like there’s anything wrong with my reproductive stuff (that we now of!), yet I still need to go to a walk-in clinic and say Hi-I’m-gay-and-I-want-a-baby-please.  Wouldn’t it make more sense for me to go straight to the fertility centre and say the same thing? It’s not really a mystery, my reasons for requiring their services.

“And your partner will need to get one too,” said the receptionist.  I actually laughed. “Well, she won’t be the gestational parent, I will,” I told her, “Is that still necessary?”

It’s just how they usually do it, I was told: They treat both women as a couple, and the referral is so that blood tests and other parts of the process are covered by the provincial health care system.

“Are you sure she won’t be carrying…?” Asked the receptionist. “And you won’t be using her eggs?”

No, that won’t be happening, I assured her. We’re quite certain. The receptionist agreed that in that case, it’d be silly for Oats to get a referral too… Let alone go through the blood work and whatever else is required.  I’m glad she was as amused by this as I was.

I called Oats and gave her the update.  She had her own news:  She saw her own doctor this morning, regarding some unfortunate health problems, and his solution was to put her on the Pill.  Ha!  So, depending on how this all goes, we’re looking to be a right mess of hormones at our house in the upcoming year.  Good times, good times.

9 responses to “The start of the pomegranate days

  1. I laughed out loud when I read this!! Seriously Oats will be on the pill while you two try to conceive!! It is all kind if hilarious. I wish you both a healthy and fertile year to come.

  2. Ah, funny.
    No system is immune from corner cases. Truth.

  3. Good LUCK!
    We have been down this path I remember going through exactly what you are talking about!
    Im sending fertile thoughts your way :)

  4. I was experiencing health issues that may have been solved by the use of the Pill, but I refused. As a lesbian, I find it asinine to be using such a thing, however, my decision to not use was primarily due to previous experience using the pill in my young adult life. After very deep and careful consideration, I took a more drastic resolution and opted for the Endometrial Ablation. We’ll see if that solves the issue.

    Good Luck in Conceiving and Good Luck to Oats with her health issues.

    • I think it’s such a weird “treat-the-symptoms-ignore-the-disease” sort of approach, the prescription of the Pill to people who don’t need it for contraception, I mean! Oats hasn’t taken it either… She’s seeing a naturopath tomorrow, about whom we’ve heard good things.

      I wish you luck as well in your own health!

  5. thedarkandthelight

    It does sort of seem like an unnecessary step, going to the walk-in clinic to get a referral to go to the fertility clinic, but I see as the way all specialists see patients. You don’t go directly to the allergist and say, “I need you to poke my arm with your allergy things” even though that would make sense; you go to your doctor and ask for a referral (this is my example because I saw an allergist today).

    I think it’s also a primary screening step. Does this person really need to see a fertility specialist/allergist/gastroenterologist, etc. It doesn’t really apply in your case, but in some cases it would (like in mine, the family doctor tried to convince me not to see the allergist, and I’m glad I ignored his advice. But some people may have said, all right, nevermind, and then that saves the system some amount of money that would have been spent on the costlier specialist).

    Good luck with your bits!

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